Doing big things in the water is hard enough…
But what makes it infinitely harder is when we bring a victim mindset to the pool.
Instead of taking ownership of our swimming, whether it’s swim practices or how we perform on race day, we blame others, grow resentful of the success of others, and obsess over the results at the expense of the process.
In this article, we will look at the key differences between the “victor” and “victim” mindsets for swimmers and discuss some tools for turn up your victor mindset to eleven.
Let’s dive right in.
The Role of the Victor Mindset
One of those tried-and-true cliches that get bandied about the pool deck is a variation of:
What happens to you isn’t always your fault, but it’s always going to be your responsibility to deal with it.
Yes, I know…
It’s always going to be easy to blame the pool temperature, the number of swimmers in the lane, the lousy sleep you got last night, or any other exterior factor that is patently unfair…
The victim mindset—resentful, outwardly blaming—is an easy scapegoat when things don’t go our way.
But ultimately, the way you swim and the way you respond is your responsibility.
- The starter’s gun went off before you were in the starting position? Not really your fault, but still your responsibility to get off the blocks and swim like your hair is on fire.
- The lifeguard didn’t show up to open the pool up for early morning practice? Not your fault, but getting that workout in is still your responsibility.
- Tired because you stayed up late, unable to sleep because the neighbors were making a racket? Not your fault, but getting up and getting down to business in the pool is still your responsibility.
And while for many a foray into a victim’s mindset is a way to cope with a big loss or failure, left unchecked it can quickly become a cancer on your mindset.
After all, the victim mindset has no limiting principle.
Once you start to view everything through the resentment of a victim’s mindset, it can be hard to peel yourself out of it, much less get the most from yourself in the water.
Instead, focus on adopting a victor mindset, giving you total responsibility for your swimming.
Victor vs Victim Mindsets
Before we get into some proven tools for turning up the victor mindset, let’s take a look at the specific ways that both of these mindsets present themselves in the pool.
Research1 with a group of 40 elite athletes found that those who exhibited the victim mindset:
- Were obsessed with looking like a winner; they seek to be viewed as superior over others and to be treated special
- Focused primarily on humiliating opponents in competition
- Were focused almost exclusively on the outcome (versus the process)
- Exhibited perfectionist tendencies (all or nothing thinking, etc)
- Were focused on the “stage”; i.e. was this game going to be broadcast on tv?
- Tendency to blame the coach, teammates, the competition, the fans, etc for losing/underperforming
- Displayed resentment towards successful athletes
- Behaved in an unsportsmanlike manner often
On the other hand, the “anti-victim” athletes had a set of psychological characteristics that flipped the victim mindset on its head.
Our “victors” had a mindset that:
- Focused on the process
- Encouraged cyclical goals; set a goal, work to achieve it, assess, and then repeat
- Took a “journeyman” approach to training
- Aware of how sport is a vessel for developing a quality human being
- Didn’t quit in the event that they fell short
- Multi-motivational; they want to beat the opponent, but they are as interested in getting the most from themselves
- Respects the sport; takes wins and losses with class, respecting opponents and the sport
- Understands that adversity and challenges are part of the process
- Takes ownership of setbacks and failures
How to be an “Anti-Victim”
If you read those two lists and found yourself wincing a little, finding the “victim” points resonating…
Take a breath.
The victor vs victim mindsets are not set in stone.
I know there’s been moments in my life—in the pool and outside of it—where I rocked the victim mindset like it owed me money.
But being aware of the difference between the two, and understanding the different paths the mindsets can take you, are often enough to set you in the right direction with the right mindset.
And let’s be honest, there will be times when slipping into a victim mindset is understandable:
Back-to-back (undeserved) DQs at the Big Meet. A stretch of truly stinky swim practices. Or the whole world seemingly coming together, one setback at a time, to crater your season.
But it’s crucial to understand that there are things you can do to navigate your way towards a more positive and productive mindset (that will also—fun fact—help you swim faster).
The Bottom Line
When you feel yourself starting to roil in the waters of a victim complex, chart a path back by:
- Focus on the process.
- Seek challenges.
- Avoid resentment and making excuses.
- Be grateful for the journey, both the wins and the L’s.
- Take total ownership of your swimming.
Not only will you achieve more in the water, but you will do so in a manner that will create a better and more productive human being out of the water, too.
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